restorer-john
Grand Contributor
Hope your partner will recover soon!
My girl has been enjoying a minimum of three cooked meals a day, carefully selected for variety, taste and nutrition all prepared by her "personal chef" (me). P doesn't want to go back to work, ever.
Actually, I've enjoyed it as the kitchen is all mine (yeah), I don't find odd things in the fridge decomposing and chit is exactly where I left it. That said, sometimes you just want a takeaway pizza...
What I have come to understand is carers/partners put their life on hold. I never knew that. P is head of special education and deals with it all the time, everyday. The parents with multiple special needs kids etc. And her 'disability' is just temporary too!
I haven't listened to music for 2+ months, except for a few minutes on headphones. You feed others first, and yourself second. The garden gets totally overgrown. The cars need washing and vacuuming. The clothes chute to the laundry gets piled up and that's not because I didn't do the washing before, it's because doing the washing takes a backseat.
My parents are old. One or other, or both will need me soon enough. This has been good practice and I am thankful for that.