I do agree with your diagnostics - also my experience is that 40-100 Hz is critical, as there is much more content there, and ear starts to be more sensitive to mostly timing/decay/phase related problems. And sorting issues there was important foundation for all of the other adjustments.
But 80-120Hz is already the area where we enter the realm of spatial cues, 2nd harmonics of some bass notes and here I think, that room and each speaker needs to perform by itself [does not mean not using EQ, it is still needed] - means there should be already acoustic treatments addressing this frequency range, woofers must be able to hit reference levels without compression and distortion, if we are trying to build high performance system.
I think decay should be normalized at +- desired decay times from 80Hz upwards, most of the resonances should be addressed by passive absorption, rather than relaying on digital filters. It just sounds better, even if measured FR looks the same.