If you try to EQ based on music only, this will be very difficult in my experience. If you still got the motivation, I'd recommend using some
online equal loudness tester. Tune in 1 kHz to your normal listening level, then start to tune up and down from there by comparing each frequency to the 1 kHz reference and adjusting the EQ step by step.
Recently did this with some IEMs and I was really surprised how much closer that brought'em to neutral speakers. Still some more tuning to do, because the frequency steps were a bit coarse, but the results are already pretty convincing.