Recently I just can't stop thinking about how little time I have left, even if I'll live to be 80...
To make things worse, I'm an agnostic atheist, so I'm unable to assure my self that I'll be going to a better place. The way I see it, when you die, you "feel" exactly the same as you felt in the 1800's...
If what you are doing (i.e. your belief system) isn't giving the results you want (such as peace when you contemplate the inevitability of death), then you might need to do something different. From what you have said it sounds like your belief system no longer serves you well, as it comes with a price tag you are no longer comfortable with. Cognitive bias predicts that we tend to see what we are looking for, which, when it comes to belief systems, implies that change starts with seeking.
So you might consider revising your self-concept just enough to become a “seeker”. Be willing to be skeptical of your skepticism. You may have to formulate your own belief system if none of those already out there would serve you well. And if at some point you conclude you were mistaken about hopelessness, well that would actually be good news, wouldn't it?
How do you deal with this sad fact of life? How does it feel to be over 70, knowing you can go any day?
These questions make me think that you actually don't need to become a seeker; you already are one. Imo you just need to broaden your search area.
As for how this 61 year old seeker deals with "this sad fact of life", the following will not begin to be a thorough answer:
My personal belief system has an open canon, which means that I have working theories, not "facts". Everything in my belief system is subject to challenge and revision or rejection or replacement.
At the risk of mixing metaphors, I do not expect the hidden quantum world to follow the same rules as the normal every-day Newtonian world.
I deliberately try to be generally optimistic, and to give positive thoughts (rather than the multitude of yammering negative ones) the benefit of the doubt. "Life offers us many excuses to become bitter or angry or discouraged. None of them are good enough."
As for how I look towards my inevitable death, it is with curiosity. In the meantime there are a lot of things I want to do, but when the time comes, I'm dying to find out what really happens!
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