yep.. ears are not following standards.
Science desires standards so that's why there are standards.
As human hearing is not the same as a microphone's response science also needs targets.
Targets will not be the same for everyone.
Then there is something like seal which, in a lot of cases, can cause their own problems.
Science don't want no such variables.
So the science and humans don't mesh that well. The science, fortunately, is very clear about that and has always been clear about that.
In short: Heaphone measurements = science and ,unfortunately, is merely indicative for us humans.
The good news is that science did lead to the improvement of headphones and sound quality and there are plenty of good fitting headphones around for each and everyone.
They just might not adhere to known scientific standard measurements.