So basically it is all unwarranted self-importance? It is my theory that when people can "hear" something that other people cannot (and there is a measurable and audible difference) that is simply a matter of training or experience. I think with enough practice probably most people could do it. Although how you would teach something like that is kind of a tricky question.
The key in what you said is that there is a measurable and audible difference to start with. In that case I absolutely am with you that training, etc. could definitely help.
It's when there's no difference and people claim differences that empirically aren't there, yet refuse anything that could even acknowledge a flawed 'impression/review/whatever. Usually it's those who've already spent their money. They are committed at that point, so it's virtually impossible to be convinced to do anything other than tell everyone that they must have bad ears, systems, attitudes, whatever.
Scales with $$$ already down the crapper seems to me.