But what I absolutely hated were the unnecessary screaming from some fanatical audience members
I've definitely been in that situation. So annoying!!
I think film sound mixers studios are getting DEAFENING and mixing dangerously dB.
Albeit a sweeping statement, I probably wouldn't disagree. As this thread started, "how loud is loud?"
Personally I don't mind the odd high SPL transient (like on the front of an explosion or gunshot up at peak digits) or even a massive sub hit that's up at 110 for a second. So long as you're not sitting up at 90dB+ with midrange harshness for minutes on end. Personal opinion.
I'd be very happy if someone would implement some loudness limit for cinema (probably based on Bs.1770) and ideally it would just be one "short term loudness" number on a meter that allowed transients and thus didn't require us to apply tons of compression/limiters to everything. What the window should be, I dunno (3 seconds? 30 seconds? 3 minutes?)
Problem is making a truly worldwide standard, then rolling it out to studios, then making sure cinemas adhered to it etc. Seems very unlikely "the world" would agree on it to begin with. Maybe one day though eh!?
Regarding the rest of your posts, I'm sorry you've had bad experiences and you think none of us are any good at our jobs.
I would say I find it strange that you've found Atmos, as a system, scratchy. It should have masses of LF capability and better room correction as standard than older systems. But I've not heard those specific mixes in Atmos, so maybe they are flawed, or maybe the replay system was poorly calibrated? Dunno. Either way, it's a shame.