I agree with
@AdamG247 comment that larger subs seem to be more tactile. I should have been clearer, I have experienced this multiple times in multiple setups. I do not have measurements for any of them, only an SPL meter. Perhaps people who own larger subwoofers like bass and so they dial them up higher - that could be a reason. But in my system, if I tried turning the subs up (I mentioned earlier that I have 4x 12" drivers), it quickly sounds unbalanced and bass heavy, way before I get that tactile feeling and slam that I experience with larger subs.
I wondered about whether it is the way larger drivers pressurize the room, but then if SPL is the same then surely the room has been pressurized to the same extent regardless of the size of the driver.
I have another silly thought - below a certain wavelength, sound behaves in compression mode rather than modal (where standing waves are formed). I think it was 1/4 wavelength of the dimensions of your room (varies according to which dimension, obviously?) - someone can correct me if I am wrong. Does compression mode sound different to modal bass, besides (obviously) the lack of room modes?
I know many objectivists tend to dismiss what they can not measure, or measure to be the same. I am a bit like that. But my experience with this phenomenon is so strong that I am seeking an explanation.