That's a thin line. I don't want them to have to deal with the stress & troubles I went through when young, due to being poor. But give them too much and they won't appreciate it, nor learn the valuable lessons how to acquire and keep it, and you deny them the satisfaction of having earned it themselves.
That is definitely part of the teaching aspect of how to handle money.
I was the same as patent lawyer only I was helping my father in his auto repair business growing up, I can't remember what age I started, but I remember doing oil changes and removing and putting on tires when I was around 7 years old. The tasks slowly grew until I was rebuilding and replacing engines and transmissions and then I went off to college to get a career that I wanted. I didn't want to work on cars the rest of my life.
My kids will have to work because they won't be getting the money until my wife and I die or we feel they are able to handle it. They won't get an allowance. They want money, they do what all people do and work for it. Complete tasks and chores around the house. Those will change with age, but they will definitely know they work and then they get paid. They won't be given a car, we will match whatever they have saved to purchase one.
If we never feel like they can handle the burden, and it is a burden to inherit money, of the money we leave them, it will magically disappear
