Tim Link
Addicted to Fun and Learning
What you are saying is true. Lumpy bass and midbass is unfixable with overall level adjustments. However, I think our perception changes daily as well. My bass is pretty smooth. I've calmed all the major resonances in the room and the bass overall is clean and fast and all the notes are coming through with an even presentation. I'm following the Harman curve very closely at the listening position. The changes I get day to day involve more than just the bass. Sometimes the midrange sounds more emphasized. Other times I seem more sensitive to frequencies way up over 4 kHz. If I pay attention I notice the effect in everything I'm hearing, not just the stereo. But with everything else I just accept the changes without much thought. With the stereo or with a musical instrument I have more specific expectations and get very picky about how I'm perceiving the sound. I notice it with the car. Sometimes it sounds like the engine is raspier and gives me the impression it needs an oil change. Other times it sounds very smooth. I'm pretty sure it's just the state of my hearing.Tim Link, MaxwellsEq, my personal opinion and observation on difficulty to set bass balance is due to a resonance, or a room modal peak, that takes the attention. Symptoms are: bass seems to be too much, turn bass down and now it's lean, turn it up and now it's overwhelming, it's just always seems to be off. Generalized, there doesn't seem to be single good level for bass when there is a peak. I understand your descriptions to be the exact same problem.
For live music one just have to change position to get balanced sound, but often this cannot be done if it is a crowded stage. One step to one direction could already help though, so try it.
For home stereo use room measurement to find the peak(s), fix it with what ever means, and suddenly it's easy to find level for bass that works. Actually even the midrange gets better and so on, masking reduced. Most likely it's just a room mode, but could be combination of room, speaker issues, and how speaker and room work together. Most simple thing is to use EQ to knock down modes / peaks first, then try to find bass balance again. Better would be to first find best positioning for balanced sound without exessive peaks, by changing speakers and listening position, and then use EQ. Perhaps use advanced EQ tactics but few parametric filters can do wonders already.
If and when there is modes in measurement and EQ, use high Q filter to knock them peaks down, low Q filters are not effective enough and in my small experience they could make the problem worse attenuating bass broadly, without fixing the issue which is the narrow peak. Don't be shy, -15db with Q 13 could be the cure! Narrow notch filters are very hard to hear, except if they fix a narrow peak, so it's very likely the filter is not audible anywhere else in the room, except where the mode got fixed the difference should be apparent. Peaks are far easier to hear and far more distracting than dips.
Please report if this helps My general feel is, when sound seems off but cannot quite pinpoint, it's very likely just a resonance, a peak in frequency response that kind of takes attention away from the music.
My friend went to watch some car races with his mother. They took out their hearing protection for a while to hear the roar of the race cars at full volume. Probably not a good idea. He said on the way home it sounded to him like the car engine was heavily lugging the entire time. He had become dulled to high frequency sounds, so the engine sounded excessively bassy. If I ride my bike in rainy weather on streets with car traffic, the shearing sound of the car tires on the wet road is very loud and it will effect my hearing for a while afterwards, with my left ear effected considerably more than my right.