This is so relatable for me, I've heard many tube amps on various meets and shows and this kind of sound is inherent to nearly all of them, at least to my ears.
Some prime examples of how bad tubes sound in my experience was Viva Audio Egoista 845 paired with Hifiman Susvara, everything that I played on this setup had this weird feeling of timbre being off and low level detail in music deleted from existence, just sounded boring and as if the amplifier had a roll off both in bass and in treble.
Other than that most noticeable tube sound that I experienced was iFi iCan Pro which has two modes of operation, tube and solid state, that you can switch anytime. Switching from tube to solid state was an instant improvement in overall clarity, bass definition and timbralaccuracy.
Seems that my brain is just incompatible with tube gear