Is it me or are you asking questions then dissing the answers if you don't like them?
Perhaps try to listen to some monitors at a shop or find ones with wide dispersion. Maybe Focal
Also if you want something for 40-120Hz, it's going to be a largish woofer, pour something with DSP or at least bass boost if using a smaller woofer.
I'm not sure what room treatments you have but using them can help ease harshness in high frequencies and also give better "detailed in frequency" , even when using near field monitors