Right - and I don't think anyone is saying it is, after all Amir shows more than one chart per review. It is a large part of the "description" of headphones, though. If I'm looking at a headphone review here and wondering if I should get excited over it, I look at the FR first (as well as how different the left channel's FR is to the right channel's). Then distortion - after all I want my headphones to reproduce sound, I don't want them adding it or changing it in any way. Now group delay to cover some weirdness and phasing. If they are all great, even if not perfect, then it is very likely I can EQ it to my preferred target without distortion. If you only look at FR you are actively ignoring other important aspects of the headphone.
Why do you think this is not possible? I am not saying you can EQ any one specific headphone to match any other headphone, but provided the distortion of both headphones are low and the group delay is fine, you can get really close (and the more filters you can add the better). I'd even bet there are certain matches you can make where the differences would be inaudible - so tiny they wouldn't be noticeable (if that's what you mean by 'exactly like').
To step in front of your next question, after looking at the group delay for the susvara, no I would not say that you can EQ the 7Hz x Crinacle Zero:2 to sound like the susvara because there's a lot going on with the group delay, and if it's related to phase then good luck. You need more than EQ on such a headphone. But mess with some all pass filters in the highs on the Crinacle to mess with phase and maybe...
I am honestly curious if you could EQ those Crincles to sound like the Dan Clark E3. The EQ needed for the crincle in the lows is kinda weird - maybe you'd need a tilt shelf filter? And obviously you'd need to reconcile the difference in over-ear vs IEM, but this is just an example. But really, isn't this what we are trying to do? We want to take a headphone and match the FR to our preferred target. We take another headphone, and we want to match our target. Given that the headphones are of good enough quality to both reproduce sound without adding anything, and we use enough EQ to get within X% of our FR target in all frequencies, aren't we effectively trying to make one headphone sound like another?
If you don't want to use your own FR target but instead want to use the headphone creator's target, then that will vary per-headphone. Or if you can't EQ your headphones (or don't want to), this also doesn't apply, but it means you are even more tied to the FR of the headphone (that is, you have to like its FR to then like the headphone).