Our systems are pretty similar.
Denon X4500 w/Audyssey XT32
Buchardt S400 x3
Revel S16 x4
Focal 6" sealed outdoor speakers as heights/tops
Rythmik FV15HP2 x2
For me, Audyssey is a simple process. I run all the measurements and if I get the floor L/R and top L/R pairs to come out with the same distances left to right, I know I got my center point right with the mic. Using the app, I set my limit at 400 Hz for the front 3 and between 400-600 Hz for the rest of the speakers. I find the surrounds tend to need correction a little higher due to their proximity to the walls.
The subs get a distance tweak using REW to verify, crossovers set to 60 Hz (based on much testing in different rooms over the last few years, and because Denon doesn't give the option for 70 Hz) then sub levels adjusted using a set of musical reference tracks. This usually means the levels come up 1-3 notches. Back when I ran sealed subs, I had to crank them a lot more, like +6-8.
I then use a process I developed using Atmos white noise and REW RTA readings to level out the surrounds and tops with DEQ on at -20 MV. I always use DEQ, no exceptions.
My settings don't ever change unless I come across a movie with abnormally weak or strong LFE. For Bladerunner 2049 the subs get trimmed by -2, for example.
Other than that, this system is turn-key whenever I want to use it.
I'm trying to understand this. You are not getting enough bass for movies, and if you run the bass where you want it to be, the bass is too much for music?