... My general impression from a 'meta analysis' of this, is that once a person starts down the route of room treatment (and DSP 'correction'), they can never let it lie, and forever blame their dissatisfaction (real or imagined) on the sound of the room. And all the while, maybe they are 'hearing through the room' anyway, and a very broad range of rooms are equally acceptable....
Dissatisfaction? Kal, me and many of my closest friends have been using DSP EQ room correction for over a decade. We have never been happier. Some of us have not changed anything of substance in a decade. Methinks thou dost selectively choose assumptions, anecdotes and mere audiophile testimony rather than empirical data or even conducted thine own subjective listening comparisons. So, thou werest able to fit thine own unproven hypothesis - wishful thinking. We who use it, even to this day, can turn it on and off in rapid succession, and we reach the same conclusion: gotta have it. But, as with all things in audio, YMMV.
I do not disagree that getting into treatments is riddled with potential problems, much time, effort and expense, short lived confirmation bias, etc. Maybe fully optimized treatments are capable ultimately of being even better than DSP EQ, though treatments by their nature are incompatible with meaningful before/after listening comparisons. But, that long road with unsightly treatments is not guaranteed to succeed, even in professional hands. Stories and anecdotes abound of less than successful treatments. It is a far riskier approach.
Sure, many rooms are "acceptable" uncorrected, but maybe not so much after hearing what competently mic-calibrated DSP can do in the same room in A/B. And, sure, some will be dissatisfied with it for a host of reasons, valid or not. For example, it is quite easy to overlook something important, leading to a suboptimal calibration. But, I do not think the "metadata" objectively supports an overwhelming disappointment with it. It is no panacea, curing all audio ills. It is not perfect. But, a strong niche in the marketplace is accepting it in great numbers, and I believe most buyers keep it, then keep it on, not off.
Also, audiophile DNA for many carries the curse of perpetual dissatisfaction, though equipment makers love that. I believe it stems from many imperfections in the overall, insufficiently transparent audio recording and reproduction paradigm, including specific equipment choices in the system, which render the sonic result, at best, still somewhat short of the (unrealistically?) expected realism compared to live. We can only expect very small, very gradual steps to improve that. Although, I may be lucky, but I have heard huge progress over the past decade, myself.
But, one revolutionary step is to now consider the room as an integral part of the playback system. It clearly has measurable and audible effects on the sound as heard by the listener, so why is it not formally considered part of the playback system? While paid lip service in previous generations of audiophiles, the room and its influence are better understood today thanks to science, measurements and the availability, mainly over the past 15 years, of high tech DSP tools, which many proactive audiophiles, not enslaved by tradition, could easily audition in their own systems. I think it is growing and here to stay.