Meanwhile I grasped the Hypex software (it wasn't that difficult) and now the crossover (10Hz/24dB highpass and 80Hz/48dB lowpass) and DSP for the subwoofer are running on the Hypex amp alone. I have also equalized the dips in the frequency response and compensated for the necessary digital signal attenuation (so as not to exceed digital zero) with the gain control at the input of the Hypex amp. This works very well and so the digital resolution of my main DAC is not affected.
Here are a some measurements for the sub alone. I'm not sure which microphone orientation is the right one for my particular listening situation. The most plausible way seems to me to be the average value from a measurement in the head position with the microphone vertical and a measurement on the left and right with the microphone horizontal to the center, i.e. pointed directly at the ears at a distance of 20 cm from each other. This average is therefore the basis for the EQ and the resulting measurements up to 200 Hz.
Mic horizontal, pointing like straight to ears, 30 cm distance to sub, average from two measurements with the microphone horizontal to the center at a distance of 20 cm from each other
Mic vertikal, like in middle of head, 30 cm distance to sub (virtually no difference to the previous one)
Mic horizontal pointing straight to sub, 30 cm distance
Mic horizontal pointing straight away from sub, 30 cm distance
Mic horizontal, like sitting on outer left of sofa with right ear pointing to sub, 70 cm distance
Mic vertical, like sitting on outer left of sofa with right ear pointing to sub, 70 cm distance (virtually no difference to the previous one)