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Value Rigidity

I'm firmly at the same camp too, to the death. And I consider his way to go true to his previous life: a choice of his own.
There are worst ways to live than his way to die :)
A few years ago, they published Feynman's letters. https://dokumen.pub/the-quotable-fe...selected-us-libraries-only-9781400874231.html

As I was reading through them, I came across 3 to my friend and college roommate, Bob Bonic, RIP. It was a bizarre 2 degrees of separation moment for me. I had no idea they had been collogues.

"You must compare your ideas with Nature; she tells you yes or no. She produces phenomena that require explanation. You cannot make your own assumptions and analyze the consequences." – Letter to Mr. Robert Bonic, January 1974"

"My theory is that an excited and enthusiastic teacher teaching in a new and experimental situation — trying new things out — exudes so much in personality and energy that the students (or some students, at least) cannot help but respond. They respond magnificently." – Letter to Mr. Robert Bonic, January 1974

"...outstanding in anything, we must realize that most teachers must be either mediocre or dull. This is not a criticism of the profession — it is merely a matter of arithmetic." – Letter to Mr. Robert Bonic, January 1974
 
Every time that I've tried to discuss value rigidity with anyone, it has ended with disconnect. The best short example, for me, is from Pirsig's "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" where he explains it as a Monkey Trap. It seems not a day goes by where someone, even on ASR, posts the miracle of footers, or cables or boxes of dirt... and will NOT budge... no matter how many smarty pants audio professionals show and tell them otherwise.

What are some other examples of value rigidity... i.e. "Monkey Traps" that you observe that drive you crazy?
It doesn't drive me crazy but don't you think observing this kind of thing every day and being driven crazy by it is a kind of trap?

The behavior you observe is so ritualized and consistent that we can see it as a stable real pattern in itself. It requires investment from its participants in terms of time, psychic energy, and opportunity, etc. What's the return on that investment? People enjoy such antagonism. It's like sports or some other things we don't discuss on ASR.

A few years back we had the flat earth types versus the NdgT fans. Asinine discourse of course but each side profits from it in attention, identity and social group respect. It works for the participants. Who wants to spend their time telling flat earthers they are wrong? Not me. It's obviously pointless and unproductive to me but clearly it's not to those doing it.

Fighting is fun if you experience it as winning. With suitable peer group support (tribe), combatants on both sides can experience the fighting as winning for a long time.
 
I am not sure how I would respond
I don’t think any of us know for certain. Until the moment arrives we like to think we know how we would choose. One made his choice and met the immediate consequences. The other had to live with the consequences of his decision. I’m sure he had ample time to second guess himself.
I've heard or read people saying when you are stuck in life be patient, a guide will soon appear.
IMHO: Being patient in the “Moment of Chaos and mayhem” is another skill set we either have or don’t. It can be molded and improved over the course of one’s life. Being able to stop the frantic need to choose one of a few immediate responses to the chaos and force the mind to fully assess the problem without jumping to solutions. Some have this clairvoyance of thought and some don’t. Again it’s the age old question “will you panic and flee or will you be brave and stand and fight?” What lies in the depths of our character is a mystery to us all, even the actor in the moment of action will usually be surprised. :oops:
 
Which one of these guys is Amir?
It's the guy doing YouTube face, of course. That one

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Every time that I've tried to discuss value rigidity with anyone, it has ended with disconnect. The best short example, for me, is from Pirsig's "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" where he explains it as a Monkey Trap. It seems not a day goes by where someone, even on ASR, posts the miracle of footers, or cables or boxes of dirt... and will NOT budge... no matter how many smarty pants audio professionals show and tell them otherwise.

What are some other examples of value rigidity... i.e. "Monkey Traps" that you observe that drive you crazy?


One of my fav/most read books, it’s been my “carry” book on every 6month+ trip and every time I read it I get something else out of it.

“I’ll go and read the thread now”
 
Sometimes Socrates death is used as if being admirable and sometimes as if it was cowardice.

After all, philosophy begins with the act of winding people up. In Plato’s Apology, Socrates attempts to explain why the citizens of Athens are so keen to put him to death, and the pattern he discerns is a familiar one. Meletus and Antyus and the other accusers are furious that Socrates has corrupted the young, that he’s “speculated about the heaven above, and searched into the earth beneath, and made the worse appear the better cause.” Which is to say, they’ve presented him as a threat: this man has done harm. Socrates doesn’t just set out to dispute the content of the allegations; he wants to show that there’s something else, much smaller and more unbearable, that’s brought all this hatred on his head. “I dare say that you may feel irritated at being suddenly awakened when you are caught napping; and you may think that if you were to strike me dead, as Anytus advises, which you easily might, then you would sleep on for the remainder of your lives.” Socrates is annoying; this is why he must die.

And he’s right, there is something basically unbearable in his maieutics, something like a toddler’s endless questioning. Shut up! Why? Because I want you to. But why? Even when he’s on trial for his life, Socrates is clearly having fun; it’s enjoyable for him to tie his enemies’ arguments in loops; there’s a deep pleasure in trapping them inside their own shoddy ideas.


From "I know a song that gets on everybody’s nerves" by Sam Kriss 2021.
 
Fighting is fun if you experience it as winning. With suitable peer group support (tribe), combatants on both sides can experience the fighting as winning for a long time.
As a native NY'er, I understand that mindset. As a 20 year recluse... I'm of the Groucho Marx school... "I wouldn't belong to a club that would have me as a member..." I made an exception for you guys when I saw a light somewhere in the woods. No tribe for me. I've disowned her in recent decades, but Ayn Rand said... "Civilization is the progress toward a society of privacy. The savage's whole existence is public, ruled by the laws of his tribe. Civilization is the process of setting man free from men." I agree with that sentiment... but otherwise I've drawn distance from the author.
 
What I think really happens is if you are stuck, only then are you open to consider other ways and sure enough someone will get your attention to attempt something different. It has been some time since reading Pirsig, but I seem to recall he had some essays on being stuck or stuck-ness.

Certainly at such times one is more open to considering a different way. Yet, more than that, when I've re-oriented my thinking even when it seemed rather sudden in retrospect it was gradual. A conglomeration of things that swayed me in another direction. Even if nothing happened and suddenly the switch flipped it may have been one thing, but it was not one thing in isolation. Most of these times I even later could recall I could have done the same thing much earlier. Often there were people showing me the way which I ignored or somehow didn't hear at the time. So likely these people are around and you are ignoring them until you are ready.

This part of your comment was very interesting. The idea of being stuck being a catalyst to having to open one’s mind is certainly resonating with me right now.

I grew up interested in science and nature and reading magazines like sceptical inquirer and I continue to hold science as the obvious gold standard, with a very dim view on fringe, alternative medicine, and anything that smacks of “woo-woo.”

So for any malady I’ve ever suffered I simply availed myself of established medical science and treatments.

So what does one do if you come down with a condition that is so new science hasn’t even figured out what it is exactly, and certainly doesn’t have any established treatment? When the doctors say “ sorry we don’t even know what this is for sure, and there’s no known effective treatment.”

It seems to force you out into that dreaded realm of “ doing your own research.
Which of course, is what has led to any number of kooky maverick or layman ideas and treatments. (Ivermectin, anyone?)

Ok so… just using myself as an example for the general principle I’m getting at… I am currently “ stuck” what should I use this as an opportunity to be “ open to?”

Well, on one hand, it can seem like the best one can do is to keep one’s feet on the ground, and look to whatever research there is on the topic, and which might be suggestive of possible treatment routes.

But there’s also the issue that medical science moves so incredibly slowly, and you don’t know when any scientifically established treatment will show up. It could be a decade or longer, if it ever arrives.

So then, and this is where the “ stuckness leading to openness” arises if only from desperation - you can start looking to people who have actually recovered, investigate their stories and see what worked for them. That sort of where the community who has these type of currently untreatable conditions are at.

On one hand, the properly scientific sceptical mindset recognizes you are in the realm of anecdotal evidence. On the other hand, given how incredibly slowly the science is likely to progress given typical scientific structures (as well as lack of funding) such communities may well happen upon some level of viable treatment before the science catches up.

So I’m just trying to depict the sort of excruciating situation where one is absolute about the relevance of the scientific method… and yet circumstances casts one adrift, or into a new country science hasn’t yet made a foothold.

Being stuck and desperation can force one into being more open I guess. (while keeping one’s brain from falling out.)

I think even some of the discussions on ASR have faced that. For instance, there are discussions about tinnitus which of course course some people can really suffer from. And yet science is still trying to figure out precisely what causes it, and there is no known treatment that has been scientifically firmly established as efficacious. So there’s a real “ you’re on your own” aspect, with members discussing various intriguing, treatment ideas and sharing experience.

I suspect quite a few members in a forum they probably skews older have experienced something like this in their medical history, where they have to become sort of their own doctor in a way.
 
This part of your comment was very interesting. The idea of being stuck being a catalyst to having to open one’s mind is certainly resonating with me right now.

I grew up interested in science and nature and reading magazines like sceptical inquirer and I continue to hold science as the obvious gold standard, with a very dim view on fringe, alternative medicine, and anything that smacks of “woo-woo.”

So for any malady I’ve ever suffered I simply availed myself of established medical science and treatments.

So what does one do if you come down with a condition that is so new science hasn’t even figured out what it is exactly, and certainly doesn’t have any established treatment? When the doctors say “ sorry we don’t even know what this is for sure, and there’s no known effective treatment.”

It seems to force you out into that dreaded realm of “ doing your own research.
Which of course, is what has led to any number of kooky maverick or layman ideas and treatments. (Ivermectin, anyone?)

Ok so… just using myself as an example for the general principle I’m getting at… I am currently “ stuck” what should I use this as an opportunity to be “ open to?”

Well, on one hand, it can seem like the best one can do is to keep one’s feet on the ground, and look to whatever research there is on the topic, and which might be suggestive of possible treatment routes.

But there’s also the issue that medical science moves so incredibly slowly, and you don’t know when any scientifically established treatment will show up. It could be a decade or longer, if it ever arrives.

So then, and this is where the “ stuckness leading to openness” arises if only from desperation - you can start looking to people who have actually recovered, investigate their stories and see what worked for them. That sort of where the community who has these type of currently untreatable conditions are at.

On one hand, the properly scientific sceptical mindset recognizes you are in the realm of anecdotal evidence. On the other hand, given how incredibly slowly the science is likely to progress given typical scientific structures (as well as lack of funding) such communities may well happen upon some level of viable treatment before the science catches up.

So I’m just trying to depict the sort of excruciating situation where one is absolute about the relevance of the scientific method… and yet circumstances casts one adrift, or into a new country science hasn’t yet made a foothold.

Being stuck and desperation can force one into being more open I guess. (while keeping one’s brain from falling out.)

I think even some of the discussions on ASR have faced that. For instance, there are discussions about tinnitus which of course course some people can really suffer from. And yet science is still trying to figure out precisely what causes it, and there is no known treatment that has been scientifically firmly established as efficacious. So there’s a real “ you’re on your own” aspect, with members discussing various intriguing, treatment ideas and sharing experience.

I suspect quite a few members in a forum they probably skews older have experienced something like this in their medical history, where they have to become sort of their own doctor in a way.
Stuckness and desperation most suck... when our own timeline is uncertain and missing the pieces to solve the equation. If it were my decision, I think that the earlier post about prioritizing or weighing values against each other apply. In the case that you've described, one weighs the expected, time, cost, testing, treatment, etc... against the quality of life or state of mind in those uncertain pursuits, with the possible pay off of a cure. Most of us have either personal experience or know someone that has had to tread this path in one form or another. As a kid, my mother was never home and always in the hospital for various forms of cancer, passing after 7 years without any quality of life. I knew from that time that I would not pursue that path. Now at 68, I know that if I were diagnosed with something that required chemo or major invasive surgery, I'd decline. I'd spend every day the best way that I could, not being probed and prodded until the end. I'd prioritize the quality of time without chasing that dragon over the hopes of more time, at the expense of the quality of the time that I have left.

I've been contemplating this for 60 years... and am more resolved now than at any other point. However, I'm a hermit, so I need not consider anyone else's interest or feeling... most don't occupy that sort of bubble where they can be that selfish and still be true to themselves. If I did... I'd hope that they would accept any decision that I made and understand why.

If current science didn't have an answer... any pursuit of pseudo-science would cause me to be in constant self-rebuke... adding to the stress and constant cortisol immersion of my malady. The last time that I tried to be my own Dr., it resulted in being rushed to the hospital for an emergency appendectomy... a few hours short of dying of sepsis... because my researched "diagnosis" was kidney stones. No more of that for me... nor will I try to do my own root canal.

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