For those of us who prefer city living (for whatever reasons), it is obvious that costs in urban USA are quite different from state-wide averages.
Yes. I live in a rural exurb on six acres with a house and a large shop. I paid about one-quarter for it what the house alone would have cost in the inner suburbs of my metro area, but now it's probably worth about two-thirds of that close-in house.
Regarding those who like cities, I note the cultural differences between the Navaho people and their pueblo neighbors. The Pueblo peoples have lived in their villages for far longer, being town-oriented farmers rather than nomadic herders. Their towns, which are still occupied, are the oldest occupied town areas in the U.S. I'm thinking of Old Oraibi in the Hopi Reservation and the Acoma Pueblo and Taos Pueblo, among others. Their towns are highly compact and their culture is one of mutual interaction and dependence as a village, with many traditions centered around communal activities. The Navaho people, on the other hand, spread out in the land between the pueblos, and their preferred residential setting requires their door to face the rising sun in the east preferably with no other dwelling in view.
I identify with the Navaho on this axis, except that my door does not face east
As I age further and eventually become infirm, I hope to sustain my semi-rural life with hired help--assisted living, if you will. My wife's uncle followed that strategy until his last week at age 91. My own father passed at 92 in the house my mother still occupies (my mother is currently 90), though that house is decidedly suburban compared to where I live. My one fear is a severe disability, such as might be caused by a stroke, for either me or my wife. When that happens, one must do what one must. I don't figure that's any more or less likely no matter where I live while still capable, and one can't live in fear. Neither of us can presently tolerate the idea of a retirement community.
But cost of the dwelling notwithstanding, it's still an expensive area. When my house is paid off, I'll still pay more in taxes and insurance than my entire house payment for my first house. At least the mortgage will be gone by that time, barring the unforeseen.
Rick "definitely not hoarding money" Denney