Do you love your wife/husband/partner or your children? Can it be measured? Do you enjoy listening to music?
Hmmm. Not sure I'm getting your point.
I do love music, and I am often moved at a deeply emotional level by the performance of music, even when listening to a reproduction. I am also a musician, amateur, which means I play music for the love of doing so. Furthermore, I make music because of the music, not just because I know how. I don't play in groups that program music that doesn't inspire me consistently enough, and I have sought out groups that do. That is another advantage to being an amateur.
When an audio system interferes with the music enough to distract me, I'm bothered and motivated to change something. That threshold is subject to training, and our standards get tougher as we experience better stuff.
So, to take your post--if every time you gazed upon your loved one, a sheet of glass with vaseline smeared all over it drops down and obscures the view, you might find that it hides some faults and creates a dreamy look that you like. But it also separates you from reality--physically and visually. (Vaseline smeared on filter glass is a traditional trick used by photographers of old as a "beauty filter".) You might like the effect for a while, but whatever emotional reaction you have to it is counterfeit.
As for me, I'll take the clear view, because love needs more truth than is allowed to pass through a beauty filter. I can listen to historical recordings--one example from just this last week is Ralph Vaughan Williams conducting his own Symphony in F Minor (the 4th) in 1937--and listen past the limited frequency response, high noise level, monaural recording, and compression. Sure, I could run that through a digital processor and do stuff with it, but in the end I'm happy with it just as it is. But when I listen to a modern recording, I have a different mindset and don't have the commitment to avoid being distracted by those limitations. Does that improve the emotional response? Only to the extent that I'm able to focus on the music and not on the reproduction.
So, as far as I'm concerned as a music lover, good reproduction is marked by being inconspicuous. The standard for that for me, given the standards I apply based on my experience, is attainable by vinyl LP's, historical recordings, and distortion and noise that is fully masked by the music. Most electronics these days attain that standard easily. Speakers that do that well in any particular room take more effort. Vinyl LPs are close enough to that threshold that quality really matters there. Amps are next, but for me it takes a pretty incompetent amp to get in my way. Digital electronics are high above my standard, and to the point where they are above anybody's possible standard. Nothing further to be gained there, except for the sheer expression of engineering excellence. Stuff (cabling, power conditioners, etc.) that requires arguments by people who claim high-end hearing ability will be of no consequence to me. It's likely that they are of no consequence to anybody, which is why it takes careful testing to demonstrate consequence to keep us from fooling ourselves.
As to the oft-quoted "fatigue", I find that stuff that makes me need to turn it down after a while is demonstrating distortion in middle frequencies where it is most apparent, or it is emphasizing higher frequencies excessively with respect to what's on the recording. Since so little music happens above 12KHz to 15KHz, but a lot of noise does, I don't worry much if my system rolls off there. Not that I can hear stuff that high well anyway. Boomy bass bugs me more, but that's usually a room issue (at least in the deep bass).
Rick "give me transparency, and let the recording speak for itself" Denney