Well, I had a particular situation with my neighbour a week or so ago - it goes to personal matters so not really appropriate to discuss here. He is on the floor above me. I was compelled to act unreasonably and just show what is that I can do to inflict the pain by sound.This is neither here, nor there. My monoblock amplifiers clock at nearly 1000 watts yet with my Revel Salon 2 amps, I have a few times run out of power by cranking the volume to max! Yes, it was incredibly loud then, but also very enjoyable until I drove my wife and dogs out of the floor of our house.
The trend today is lower and lower sensitivity speakers as enclosures have become smaller and smaller as to fit in the style of homes today. This is not going away. Nor can one's judgement of how loud they listen translate to another person.
And let's remember that doubling power from 25 to 50 watts is no big deal but getting the same doubling with a 500 watt amp pushes you to 1000 watts! This is why you get a lot of loudness and low to medium level powers but higher SPLs require incredible amount of wattage and speakers that can handle them. For this reason, every time someone asks me if this amp will be loud enough with that speaker, I say I don't know how to answer that *for them*.
When I run my system to +5dB to reference my amps just happily do that. Running beyond that would definitely be possible, as have tried before, but not really civil. When this is combined with subs that I turned to 85% as opposed to ART calibrated 40-50%, that is called Mahyam. It's really uncivil and utterly disgusting show of of the power and ability of the bass line. Upping it to +15dB to reference and subs to 100% would probably cause some structural damage to the building. So yeah, I will not crank the volume to max as it might be too destructive.