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The doghouse thread [for a good laugh]

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If you look at my OP, the term "significant other" was the usage.

I'm not sure if that comment is meant to add a level of DEI correctness or not.

But if such significant others is a "partner," so be it, "husband," so be it, "spouse," so be it. And if someone here said "significant others," that too, so be it.

In my specific case, it's my biological female wife of a heterosexual relationship with a biological man (me). I'm not sensitive of the nature of my relationship with my wife, and I won't be sensitive to the nature of other people's relationship with their significant other(s).

My usage of "significant other" is more than sufficient.
Years before I ever met my wife, I had a significant other. We had separate bank accounts but also a joint one for common bills.
At some point there was a $10,000 loan that I had to take out (and insurance was required for the loan. I asked what do I put for her relationship to me, as she is the beneficiary, since I took out enough insurance to cover the loan and other things). They said I had to list her on the paperwork as my significant other, as she was not a relative and not my wife. Good enough for a bank and an insurance company, it should be good 'nuff for everything else.
 
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I had a good buddy that was engaged to this girl for some time and he had given her a quite expensive, financed, diamond engagement ring.
Things weren't working out and they called off the engagement. For quite some time after we nagged him, Hey Fred, you better go ask her for that ring back.
So one day he worked up enough balls to go and ask her.
When he finally choked out the words she pointed to the street and asked,
Hey Fred, How do you like my new Corvette ?
True Story. :p
 
I had a good buddy that was engaged to this girl for some time and he had given her a quite expensive, financed, diamond engagement ring.
Things weren't working out and they called off the engagement. For quite some time after we nagged him, Hey Fred, you better go ask her for that ring back.
So one day he worked up enough balls to go and ask her.
When he finally choked out the words she pointed to the street and asked,
Hey Fred, How do you like my new Corvette ?
True Story. :p
If that is a true story, then it was a good decision to not marry her.

A stand up women wouldn't do that.
 
If that is a true story, then it was a good decision to not marry her.
That's damn true story. She grew up to be a politician and if you were around midwest Illinois thru the 70-90s you'd know her name if I published it. LOL
 
That's damn true story. She grew up to be a politician and if you were around midwest Illinois thru the 70-90s you'd know her name if I published it. LOL
A politician. . .well, it explains it all.
 
In some countries in Europe, the general usus was, what's given, is given, regardless.
This seems to shift now, probably it became too expensive ;)
 
In some countries in Europe, the general usus was, what's given, is given, regardless.
This seems to shift now, probably it became too expensive ;)
As far as I have ever been taught, if no marriage occurs, the ring goes back to the buyer.
Concieved in Charleston, SC, Born in Salzburg, Austria, back in Charleston when I was 2 months old. Raised about 20% in Salzburg but never asked about that while I was there.
I did not marry until I was 48. 21 years later, I'm still married.
 
In some countries in Europe, the general usus was, what's given, is given, regardless.
This seems to shift now, probably it became too expensive ;)
There is a lacking sense of honor in this thinking.

When a man gives an engagement ring that costs him a significant amount of his life savings and get on one knee to ask a women to be their life partner, that man gave his trust to that woman. He put his future to her and has account her into his future. That diamond ring is a physical symbol of the woman's life long commitment, something that she will wear and tell to the world that she is his and he is hers.

And when he is no longer hers and she is no longer his, it is not honorable to keep that engagement ring because of the monetary value.

Perhaps that's just the thinking of an old fashioned guy
 
There is a lacking sense of honor in this thinking.

When a man gives an engagement ring that costs him a significant amount of his life savings and get on one knee to ask a women to be their life partner, that man gave his trust to that woman. He put his future to her and has account her into his future. That diamond ring is a physical symbol of the woman's life long commitment, something that she will wear and tell to the world that she is his and he is hers.

And when he is no longer hers and she is no longer his, it is not honorable to keep that engagement ring because of the monetary value.

Perhaps that's just the thinking of an old fashioned guy
Perhaps the honourable thing for either of them to do, is for her to return the ring without being asked, and for him not to have asked...

S.
 
There is a lacking sense of honor in this thinking.

When a man gives an engagement ring that costs him a significant amount of his life savings and get on one knee to ask a women to be their life partner, that man gave his trust to that woman. He put his future to her and has account her into his future. That diamond ring is a physical symbol of the woman's life long commitment, something that she will wear and tell to the world that she is his and he is hers.

And when he is no longer hers and she is no longer his, it is not honorable to keep that engagement ring because of the monetary value.

Perhaps that's just the thinking of an old fashioned guy
Honor is a slippery slope anyway. One can be "let go in his socks" without having done any harm, nowadays - not much honor in such deed either...

But we don't want to turn a merry thread sad, so a marriage joke as a bonus:

Therapist: Do you talk with your husband during intercourse?
Patient: If he calls me, why not.
 
Perhaps the honourable thing for either of them to do, is for her to return the ring without being asked, and for him not to have asked...

S.
100%. This should be unspoken. But I supposed the world has changed.
 
In some countries in Europe, the general usus was, what's given, is given, regardless.
This seems to shift now, probably it became too expensive ;)
Some men use very poor judgement when thinking with the wrong head. :p
 
Some men use very poor judgement when thinking with the wrong head. :p
Maybe this even explains some car crashes - they shift gears with the wrong knob (I prefer automatic) :cool:
 
i get where OP is coming from-- there's a place for "take my wife-- please!" humor. The ins and outs of relationships is one thing we all have in common and it helps to be able to talk or joke about it. but i think there are many different experiences in this group that aren't from an Andy Capp cartoon. My partner is totally supportive. My love of music and my deep engagement with it is one of the things she likes about me.

The things I WOULD like to commiserate with on here are more like:

Why are rents so high in cities now that we can't afford to have dedicated listening rooms and have to make other rooms do double-duty?

Why do 100 year-old duplexes have so few electrical outlets that it's hard to find a workable set-up in the space we DO have?

What do we do about the fact that we have beautiful speaker systems, but out of respect for our downstairs neighbors, we can't use them?


Those are the problems I face every day-- for instance, I can't listen to LPs right now because I dont have an outlet to plug my turntable into. If I run an extension cord it will look terrible and will also have to go behind the radiator, which might be dangerous! i am out of space for LPs, so i can't buy a new one without getting rid of an old one, etc.

I appreciate the original post in the spirit in which it was intended, but would also love to be able to talk trash or problem-solve about other issues that i suspect we all face!
 
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