Unfortunately, while only using a single sub, I'm one of those who has found themselves using rather unusual xo settings.
I'm not sure what the concensus is, if any, has been established as universal and 'best practice' over the course of this thread. KSTR mentioned a lot of good points for a start.
My own journey with doing things the manual way was pretty interesting... and frustrating.
Here's some measurements from my latest endeavor:
Some rudimentary adjustment options at the back of my sub:
I have to crawl down under a desk and blindly turn knobs just by feel, hence the different knob for volume control.
Having something like a miniDSP or software to make xo, delay, and FR, and volume adjustments is a godsend, over fidling over with physical knobs in each speaker each and every time.
The way the driver is positioned, phase looks good enough 'as is' with zero delay/phase change for the sub and no polarity inversion.
You can actually use REW's acoustic timing reference option to get good approximate delay needed for the mains.
Before doing anything with the sub(s)...
I first set my microphone exactly at midpoint between my left and right channels (stereo setup, in this case) at the MLP. You take several quick measurements and adjust the mic (or speakers) accordingly, until you have it situated pefectly at the exact midpoint between L&R speakers in the the MLP. Or adjust delay per channel via DSP...
Mine's already perfectly aligned:
You can also then check what suggestion REW thinks as a good delay for your mains using the same option:
*I think it was the left channel instead of right that was muted, so the image on the right is wrong for the settings used in REW!
One speaker channel is used as your acoustic timing reference, and the other channel for your sub only (mute opposite channel).
Of course, in the real world, things aren't always so easy and given to you on golden platter.
As it turns out, with many a trial and error runs, 13ms of delay for the mains gave me the best result -- least amount of cancellation and most boost around xo -- not only for the main listening position, but also in all seats of
my couch area.
REW's 'Overlays' module is extremely helpful in making comparisons between individual measurements in one window:
Some people have less exacting standards when it comes to what's acceptable GD for subs...
That spike in delay around 130Hz or so can be seen in the wavelet as well:
Just the speaker:
Just the sub:
That odd gap certainly was not from the sub/caused by it...
Overlay of two plots vs all drivers summed:
So let's eliminate the room out of the equation using nearfield measurements.
Zoomed in using Linear (% peak) amplitude instead:
Makes a whole lot more sense than the 20-25ms I was seeing (and probably hearing?) at the MLP.