but in my room this 30w sound better that 85w
It's not
because of the lower wattage... Unless you are pushing the 30W amp into clipping/distortion and you happen like the sound of the distortion...
Generally, amplifiers don't have "sound" (ignoring tone controls, etc.) unless you are hearing background noise or if you over-drive it into distortion. Of course there are exceptions like defective of badly made amplifiers but it's just not that hard to make a good amplifier, depending on how much power you need.
And when you say "sounds better", when it comes to electronics there are ONLY 3 characteristics of sound quality - Noise, distortion, and frequency response. Frequency response is usually flat across the audio range (again ignoring tone control adjustments). Sometimes there is audible noise, but that also depends on how close you are to the speaker and the sensitivity of the speaker, etc. Distortion is usually below audibility unless the amp is overdriven.
Audiophoolery discusses the REAL characteristics of audio quality and it can help you to ignore of the nonsense you might read.
I wouldn't want to burn them out
Speaker power ratings are "complicated" but
a 100W speaker is supposed to be safe with a 100W amplifier that's hitting 100W on the program peaks.
If you turn it up into clipping/distortion, the peaks are limited to 100W but the average power goes up and you can burn-out the speaker. You can burn-up the speaker with a lower-power amplifier over-driven into distortion too because again, the average power (which heats-up the voice coils) can be "higher than expected".
There is a popular myth that an over-driven lower-power amplifier is worse, but it's not true and you can burn-up the speaker either way. The lower power amp is probably safer because you'll turn it down when it distorts and sounds bad.
Continuous high-power test-tones can burn-out a speaker (because the average is the same as the peak), and high-frequency test-tones are worse because the tweeter can't take as much power as the woofer.
Usually in the real world, speakers get blown when a drunk person or teenager is in-charge of the volume control. Or maybe if you are "testing" to see how loud your setup will go.