The question you are asking about the spider/suspension is a good one because the answer is a long one.
As you mentioned the spider, I can already tell you right away: the spider has no big influence on the stiffness behavior of the driver as it is dominated by the suspension. The spider is mostly there to keep the voice coil in the center of the air gap, but radially seen. So basically it prevents the voice coil cylinder to hit the ferromagnetic material at the air gap. Electrodynamic headphones transducers usually dont even have a spider.
You are completely right about the back EMF when looking at the voltage response of the driver. The velocity of the cone creates a back EMF inside the voice coil, resulting in a current generated in said voice coil. This back EMF slows down the movement towards the resting position and can be observed in the current of a step response ("instantly turning off the DC voltage") of a transducer.
Now coming to suspension, we imagine the following case: at first, there is no current flowing through the transducer. Then, we apply a DC current to it, basically generating a "step" in the current flowing through it (see Figure below, I is the current in amperes, X is the displacement measured with a laser in milli-meters). Important: It has to be DC current, not voltage, because the current directly controls the force on the diaphragm!
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As we can see in the above Figure, the displacement is not instantly moving to a fixed displacement, but "slowly approaching" a displacement value. I had to make a logarithmic x-axis because otherwise, this effect is hard to observe. This effect is called the "creep effect" and is an inherit property of the suspensions material. I wont get too deep into this, but you can find out more if you look for "relaxation and retardation times of materials". This effect can also be described as a time-dependency of the stiffness K, as its value changes at the displacement over time. If we translate this to the frequency domain - we now have a frequency dependency of the TS parameter K, so it is actually K(f).
The frequency-dependency of the stiffness visualizes one thing - the question "which of the two factors - magnet system or suspension - is more dominating" is actually a question of frequency. To keep it short: the prominent region of stiffness effects is in the low frequency range, therefore also often called "stiffness controlled region". The region of the inductance frequency-dependency (and also non-linearities, concerning the mentioned back EMF effect) is most dominant in the high frequency region.
Have in mind - we are only talking about linear effects here. Not to be mixed up with non-linear behavior. Even though they all play together at the end, they should be looked at in a seperate way.