So why would dressing this way make them feel like they look good? If you dress in that certain way, get on stage and perform in front of large crowds and your playing rock music I don't think you are being too specific about whose attention you want. I also think you are being naive about why they do that. Plus you are implying that more is going on when all anyone said is they are nice looking or easy on the eye. Nothing wrong with that. Nothing. Nor do we have any trouble understanding it is a performance. We simply confirmed as they wished that they dressed in a way to make them feel they look good and we agree they do. What kind of sense does it make to dress in a way that makes them feel they look good and then not want anyone to notice?
Not to castigate at all, but you did say "men's attention" instead of "audience's attention" so why not the latter? And "dress in that certain way" is a bit creepy as a description/admonition, intentional or (I assume) otherwise. There's a multi-generation gap at work I guess. I was delineating the contrast between "I dress for myself" and "I dress for you" along with the difference between admiring someone's style and objectifying them. But while I thought Chrispy's comment was unintentionally droll (because "we" rarely comment on male performers being "easy on the eye") and flor's response was on-point if exasperated, the OP's initial post was quite neutral. I agree belabouring the tangential argument is unlikely to help, the initial point was made for consideration and remains.
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