Interesting question and discussions.
I myself set common/same XO/EQ/delay for L-SPs and R-SPs by DSP EKIO all the way for sub-woofers, woofers, mid-range squawkers, tweeters and super-tweeters; I also intensively measured and established 0.1 msec precision time alignment all over the drivers as well as L to R;
In case if you really need to apply different XO/EQ for L and R sub-woofers and/or woofers (I believe that would be very rare case though), I would like to suggest you to "measure and tune" the time alignment of actual "air sound" (not the DSP software's theoretical predictions) carefully in 0.1 msec precision at your listening position using a measurement microphone on independent objective air sound analysis platform.
I did the time alignment measurements and tuning using my rather naive but reliable reproducible fully validated methods shared in my project thread as follows;
- Precision measurement and adjustment of time alignment for speaker (SP) units: Part-1_ Precision pulse wave matching method: #493
- Precision measurement and adjustment of time alignment for speaker (SP) units: Part-2_ Energy peak matching method: #494
- Precision measurement and adjustment of time alignment for speaker (SP) units: Part-3_ Precision single sine wave matching method in 0.1 msec accuracy: #504,
#507
- Measurement of transient characteristics of Yamaha 30 cm woofer JA-3058 in sealed cabinet and Yamaha active sub-woofer YST-SW1000: #495, #497, #503,
#507
And these two posts would be also of your reference;
- Perfect (0.1 msec precision) time alignment of all the SP drivers greatly contributes to amazing disappearance of SPs, tightness and cleanliness of the sound, and superior 3D sound stage: #520
- Not only the precision (0.1 msec level) time alignment over all the SP drivers but also SP facing directions and sound-deadening space behind the SPs plus behind our listening position would be critically important for effective (perfect?) disappearance of speakers: #687
If you would be interested in using the test tone signals I prepared and used in these measurements and tuning, please simply PM me writing your wish.