The DIs do look almost the same. The 2018 speakers have a pretty decent MF-HF integration but there was room for improvement. The crossover is a bit different, the parallel capacitor in the HF circuit is deleted, so the filter is a second-order high pass whereas in the 2018 one the parallel circuit functioned as a notch. The crossover frequency is also lower (2.3 vs 2.9 kHz). This helped improve the off axis response clearly within +/-45 deg.
If you take the 2018 R3 and EQ it to have a similar measured response to the R3 Meta, I think you won't be awfully far, but I don't think they will really sound the same. The MF and HF drivers are quite different in distortion and other behaviour. The Meta also has much improved behaviour in at least 7 resonances, and in my experience, since these can sound quite annoying when you hit them while listening to music, one tends to balance the speaker slightly to attenuate the frequency regions where they happen. As you point out, distortion will also be different, generally higher in 2018 R3. Even at normal volume, harmonic distortion will play a part in how the speaker sounds to us, and thus have an effect on the balance we end up with. Then small things, like the capacitor in series with the tweeter, have (for some reasons we understand and some other we don't fully yet) a considerable effect on how the speaker sounds with music, which can't really be seen in the frequency response.
If you can get a really cheap 2018 R3, EQ or not, it's already a bargain of a speaker. EQ'ing it closer to the R3 Meta might make it better, might not be enough probably. I would just go further and EQ it like you would an active speaker to really try to smooth the response and then I think that would be more interesting.