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In memoriam - lost friends

TLEDDY

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I was listening to some classical music and had an attack of melancholy. Here in Florida, we have had a small group of music and quality reproduction equipment lovers, four of us to be precise. We met each other fifty years ago in the Palm Beaches.

Two years ago we lost Randy… he was our technical guru specializing in tube gear. He was a Vietnam Combat veteran, a Marine, who survived having his Huey shot down, resulting in serious injury, but survived to return to the States. What he did not survive was pancreatic cancer - that disease killed him in only three months following his diagnosis. He died at my condominium, under the loving care of his wonderful lady.

And now, the Four Musketeers became three.

Then, one year ago, we lost Ken. He was the first of us to adopt powered speakers, the big Genelec 8361s. He was also a Vietnam Combat veteran, an Army Ranger 0-3 Officer with Purple Heart and Bronze Star awards. After the military, he owned a major restaurant and bar in the Palm Beaches. He died due to a massive stroke, passing instantly at home.

Now… there are two remaining.

Tom, a Vietnam-era Navy veteran, who likes a variety of classical music. He especially enjoys piano pieces. He had the earliest Magnaplanars, the four panel system driven by Audio Research electronics. He presently is running Modified Quad 57s with SVS Subs.

I am the other remaining member. Also a Vietnam-era soldier, in the Army Medical Corps and never in combat. My audio history is recoded extensively on this site; I am now in my 84th year! I mentioned elsewhere my equipment history and the my personal end of time system is Sanders 10e speakers with Benchmark electronics.

Please forgive my nostalgia… I expect that I am one of the most elder on the Forum, so allowed a little leeway. My closest friends in the last fifty years have been these insane audiophiles, sharing our varied experiences over half a century of great music and wonderful equipment!!

Tillman, SSG E-6, Army Medical Corps
 
Our local Suncoast Audiophile Society lost three of our longtime members within a 2 month span last year. It's a sobering reminder that we're only here for a finite time, and need to make the most of every day. Unfortunately, IMHO, the younger generation(s) aren't embracing this hobby enough (as audiphiles or otherwise) to replace those of us passing on.
 
It was shocking when my wife and I lost the last of our parents and uncles/aunts then realized we were the "elders" of the family. It's hard to grasp, and at times I still find myself in a funk wishing I could ask one of them something.
 
It was shocking when my wife and I lost the last of our parents and uncles/aunts then realized we were the "elders" of the family. It's hard to grasp, and at times I still find myself in a funk wishing I could ask one of them something.
Same, same... funny, I don't feel "old".

My dad and I were discussing this some twenty or so years ago. He was saying that while he "knew" he was in his 80s his internal "clock" refused to accept it.
 
It was shocking when my wife and I lost the last of our parents and uncles/aunts then realized we were the "elders" of the family. It's hard to grasp, and at times I still find myself in a funk wishing I could ask one of them something.
Dittos all around.
 
It was shocking when my wife and I lost the last of our parents and uncles/aunts then realized we were the "elders" of the family. It's hard to grasp, and at times I still find myself in a funk wishing I could ask one of them something.
My father died too early in 2000, and when my mother died in 2013 we were at her bed as she passed away. My brother looked at me and said: "Now we are alone!". I answered:"No, we aren't, we both have loving wifes, and we have each other." I don't know whether that gave him some comfort though.
 
Too late for me, but I now realize you must if you can ask your parents about what they know about family history and see how far back they can go. Either that or going on the tv show “Finding Your Roots”!
 
I see life as a bunch of lemmings marching towards the cliff edge. It's all fine as long as there are still lemmings in front of you. Now I'm in the front row. Not so fun.
 
Wife, Stage 4 ,year and a half left max. Married 35 years, first time for both of us, I got lucky, love grew even stronger through the years. Many people drift apart through no fault of their own, people just change with age, often in different directions. For the wife and I it was the opposite, we grew closer as we aged. If there is a secret here I don't know it. Either luck or the two of us can make certain choices perfectly without knowing it for years.

Life sucks, I count the days but damn, a few beers and blasting music late at night keeps me going and recharges me.

I HAVE YOU FOLKS TO THANK KEEPING MY MIND OCCUPIED ON SYSTEM FINE TUNING AND ALL THE OTHER FUN, I THANK YOU FOR THAT, EVEN A FEW DICKS AND THEIR COMMENTS. HONESTLY, I THANK YOU TOO, GETTING A BIT FIRED UP ABOUT A COMMENT IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN COUNTING DAYS.

THANK YOU ALL!
 
As boomers it is sneeking up on us, too. It all started in 2000 for my parent generation. Everyone is gone now but two. My mother and her sister (the spouse deceased recently after 68 yrs. of marriage). It tolls for thee, pals.
Makes you wonder if your time wasted on forums is worthwhile.
 
Sorry for your losses @TLEDDY. I too, feel the same pang nearly every day. Though only pushing 60, in the last 3 years I lost 4 of my best friends to various cancers. Two of them helped me build my house being local -the guys you share projects with when help is needed. These were also the guys that would sit late nights and thoroughly enjoy the sound system between conversation. Bill and I went back to college days, he summered here just upstream and in the winter would escape to Hawaii where his daughter and grandkids reside so many summer nights were a drinky and darts. I'd look forward to every spring as we excitedly went over all the gear/EQ changes, I think half the upgrades I did were just for his benefit in retrospect lol.

It's hard to make new "old friends" at this point. Lot's of great memories and I'm not ashamed to admit a tear or two listening to favorite shared songs....
 
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