I'll look into room modes, thanks. Smaller bass drivers(under 8") definitely work better in my current room, but as far as smooth falloff VS sharp falloff VS dipped falloff, I'm not quite sure.
As others have mentioned, the real problem is room modes. Bigger drivers produce lower / louder bass, which interacts with the modes where smaller drivers might not be able to. But the modes are there regardless of what speaker you use, and in fact even if you were just playing an instrument in the room, they'd be there.
"A speaker that doesn't interact with my room modes" is unfortunately just "A speaker that lacks bass output". There is no special trick or tuning or radiation pattern that lets speakers dodge modes. If this sounds questionable, consider the fact that the wavelengths in question are larger than your whole room for the most part. It's like trying to aim a grenade to miss certain things in the vicinity... doesn't work like that.
KEF and some other manufacturers do tune their speakers with a few dB shelf down, below 100hz or so. This helps their speakers sound less boomy in typical rooms, without EQ. But it doesn't eliminate modes, just compensates for typical room gain and lowers the amplitude of any modes present proportionally. If you are dead-set against EQ or find it too much hassle, I would recommend looking for a speaker that's tuned that way.
Some people aren't EQ geniuses. And I don't have forever to screw around with EQ when listening to several speakers that have short return/refund windows. I'm not a studio, and don't have studio capabilities.
I hear you on this. If you haven't done it before, it probably seems like a huge process. Modern EQ software can do all of the hard work for you, though.
If you are using a computer for playback, you can get EQ for free on Windows via EQAPO / Peace EQ and on Mac you can buy SoundSource, I think it has a free demo though.
Basically if you have a measurement mic, you can use REW (room EQ wizard) to measure the room modes, and it generates an EQ curve to flatten out the peaks / troughs those modes create. Then you just copy / paste those settings into the EQ app.
There are other apps that use your phone's mic for a less-precise-but-still-useful approach.
But realistically you can get started doing it by ear, anyone with 10 minutes can knock down the big modes in their room with no prior skills or knowledge:
1. Install an EQ app on your computer. Set it up and verify that it's working by messing with some controls.
2. Use a tone generator like this:
https://www.szynalski.com/tone-generator/
3. Starting from about 20hz, slowly raise the frequency until the sound gets much louder. That's a mode.
4. Take note of the frequency and create a new Peaking Filter in your EQ app. Set the frequency to the one in question. Leave the Q alone for now*. Lower the gain by 2dB at a time.
5. Sweep the tone generator back and forth and see if the volume sounds constant as you sweep it. If not, go back to step 4. A typical mode can be 5-10dB louder than the baseline or more.
6. Repeat steps 3-5, once you fix one peak, you may find there are more, up to about 300hz. Create one filter for each peak.
7. Once you can sweep from 20hz to about 250-300hz without hearing any big peaks, you're done**. You can expect to find several prominent modes, it would be surprising if you find less than 3-5.
Doing it by ear isn't perfect but it's still better than no correction, and it will give you a chance to get familiar with the tools and decide if you want to invest in a mic, etc.
If you do invest in a mic you can do a really accurate correction in about 2 minutes once you've got everything set up.
I cannot recommend EQing for room correction enough, it's the audio equivalent of getting a first class upgrade for free or almost free. Getting rid of the peaks has a more comprehensive subjective effect than you would expect. Bass is tighter and more solid, but getting rid of the peaks also makes the mids sound clearer, and the tight bass makes everything sound a bit more dynamic, too.
*Q is the width of the filter. High Q = narrow. If you notice that the filter is affecting frequencies you don't want it to, raise the Q a little. If you notice that it's not affecting all the frequencies you need it to, lower it a little.
**Troughs / dips are considered harder to correct because you have to use a disproportionate amount of gain to fix them, which stresses your speakers. Only try to add filters for dips if you are sure your speakers have the headroom. Because dips result from sound bouncing and cancelling itself out, +3dB may not even raise the net volume, because after all, 3 - 3 = 0.
edit: Also, if you want a little more or less treble or bass, EQ does work quite well. Add a low or high shelf and try 2-3dB starting at 120hz for bass or 3-5khz for treble. Adjust to taste. Much cheaper than new speakers... and if you are in the market for new speakers, a good way to get a rough sense of different tunings without having to actually buy the dang speakers.