The SPL fall-off with distance depends upon your speakers and room, usually in the 3~6 dB loss range for each doubling in distance. A speaker with 96 dB/W/m sensitivity will produce roughly 90~93 dB at 2 m, 87~90 dB at 4 m, and so forth. The previously-referenced SPL calculator (
http://www.hometheaterengineering.com/splcalculator.html) provides a rough estimate of the power needed. I generally just estimate using the nominal impedance and sensitivity ratings from the manufacturer and/or reviews.
Be sure to notice the loudness comparison chart; 80 dB average is very loud to me, so I listen around perhaps 70 dB average. IME most people's average listening power is much less than they think, while the peak power relative to that average is higher than they think. For example, in a recent conversation a friend was convinced he used 25~50 W on average and needed 100~200 W for peaks (about 6 dB headroom). In fact he was using 1~2 W on average but needed 50~100 W for peaks (17 dB headroom). The change in dB for power is dB = 10*log10(P2/P1).
For reference:
+1 dB change in volume is barely noticeable and requires 1.26x the power
+3 dB increase is what most of us do when asked to "turn it up just a little" and requires 2x (twice) the power
+6 dB increase is a (very) noticeable increase and requires 4x the power
+10 dB sounds about twice as loud and requires 10x the power
Having 17 dB headroom (50x power) for music and perhaps 20 dB (100x power) for movies will cover most any situation. Some movies have even higher ratios, but frankly I am not too worried about a bit of clipping on a gun shot or explosion.
HTH - Don