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For those of you that are around 50 YO and over - do you think about death?

Spkrdctr said:
I as many of you also think of death a lot. But, it will happen when it happens. I do need to sell off a bunch of stuff like some guns. The wife would end up giving the guns away for free and they are in brand new condition. Other than the guns I don't have much, a few headphones and that is about it. I thinned out what I had when I moved a few years ago. Well, actually the moving company thinned out my stuff. They stole all my tools. That was about $3000 worth. So now I have a few (very few) ultra cheap Walmart tools. and that is it. But all in all I am still kicking and just got a perfect health check after my Prostate cancer radiation treatments. I might live a bit longer! Hooray!
I will say everyone over 60 needs to have their PSA checked with a urologist. I have known guys who had prostate cancer but didn't catch it until stage 4 so they lasted a couple of years and that was it. I was caught at stage 1.5 and they said it will not kill me at all after proper treatment.
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I have the prostate of an 18 year old.

Don't tell the cops.
 
SIY said:
I have the prostate of an 18 year old.

Don't tell the cops.
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I wish I did. I think I over used my prostate for a 5 decades and flat wore that sucker out. The wife never said no, so I had decades of craziness. Oh well, It was good times while it lasted! LOL
 
EB1000 said:
Hi.

I know this might be a touchy subject, but in 6 weeks I will turn 49. Recently I just can't stop thinking about how little time I have left, even if I'll live to be 80.

Thirty years pass quickly. I remember 1990 as if it was yesterday. I wonder who do people who are older than me deal with the fact that life must stop at some point, which can happen very soon if you're over 60...

I even stopped adding more music to my 50k+ tracks library, because I know that I don't have much time left to listen to all my music collection and enjoy it more than once.

I've also became a health nut. I only eat low carb raw vegan food, which taste like cr@p. Luckily, I don't look anywhere near 49 (most people assume I'm 35ish). But still can't shake the thought that I'm on borrowed time.

To make things worse, I'm an agnostic atheist, so I'm unable to assure my self that I'll be going to a better place. The way I see it, when you die, you "feel" exactly the same as you felt in the 1800's...

sometimes I can't even fall asleep because I'm scared that I won't wake up in the morning (my doctor says that I have death anxiety and he proscribed me some Xanax, which I decided not to take after I read the possible side effects... :) )

How do you deal with this sad fact of life? How does it feel to be over 70, knowing you can go any day?
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Concentrate on life.
Take ashwaganda for the anxiety.
 
terryforsythe said:
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At 1:50 into that song are two words tucked into the backing vocals: "redefine happiness". I'm not going into the details, but those two words in that song may have saved my life forty-seven years ago when I was in despair over a combination of things. They definitely changed my trajectory.

KLi said:
Being nice to people is something they remember. Maybe they are going to be nice to others as well then. Maybe, just maybe, this way one can make the world a little better. I'm trying at least. This is what I can contribute.
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Several days ago I was walking home from burying my best friend, so I was rather somber to say the least. As I was in front of our house a little girl, maybe 11 years old, with thick glasses, saw me from down the street and waved. I first checked to make sure she wasn't waving at someone else and then waved back. She then sprinted up to me and said, "I want to give you a hug!" I was taken by surprise and said, "okay, why?" She said, "'Cause you're the nicest person in the world!" (Obviously she doesn't know me very well, and even more obviously she has never disagreed with me about speaker radiation patterns on an internet discussion board.) Now totally bewildered I blurted out, "What did I do?" Then she reminded me:

Nobody in our neighborhood goes trick-or-treating on Halloween. This little girl and her brother and sister had been visiting their grandmother next door a few weeks before Halloween and had kicked a ball into our yard. When I tossed the ball back to them, they asked me if I was going to be giving out candy for Halloween. I told them that nobody goes trick-or-treating in this neighborhood. They said they would come to my house trick-or-treating this year. I didn't expect them to, as they didn't live here and would have to get someone to drive them to my house, but I bought a bag of candy just in case. My wife thought I was a bit nuts, probably not for the first time, but she humored me.

Sure enough they came by, their grandmother had picked them up from wherever they live, and I split the bag of candy between the three kids. I guess it made a huge impression on them, or at least on the one little girl, that I hadn't let them down. So that's why she came running up to me in the middle of the street to give me a hug a few days ago.

Nothing like this has ever happened to me before, and the timing was like it had been written into a highly-improbable movie script: Little girl runs up to sad old man and puts a big bewildered smile on his face.

Anyway, @KLi, the message I got out of it was the same as the message you posted: "Being nice to people is something they remember."
 
Duke said:
Several days ago I was walking home from burying my best friend, so I was rather somber to say the least. As I was in front of our house a little girl, maybe 11 years old, with thick glasses, saw me from down the street and waved. I first checked to make sure she wasn't waving at someone else and then waved back. She then sprinted up to me and said, "I want to give you a hug!" I was taken by surprise and said, "okay, why?" She said, "'Cause you're the nicest person in the world!" (Obviously she doesn't know me very well, and even more obviously she has never disagreed with me about speaker radiation patterns on an internet discussion board.) Now totally bewildered I blurted out, "What did I do?" Then she reminded me:

Nobody in our neighborhood goes trick-or-treating on Halloween. This little girl and her brother and sister had been visiting their grandmother next door a few weeks before Halloween and had kicked a ball into our yard. When I tossed the ball back to them, they asked me if I was going to be giving out candy for Halloween. I told them that nobody goes trick-or-treating in this neighborhood. They said they would come to my house trick-or-treating this year. I didn't expect them to, as they didn't live here and would have to get someone to drive them to my house, but I bought a bag of candy just in case. My wife thought I was a bit nuts, probably not for the first time, but she humored me.

Sure enough they came by, their grandmother had picked them up from wherever they live, and I split the bag of candy between the three kids. I guess it made a huge impression on them, or at least on the one little girl, that I hadn't let them down. So that's why she came running up to me in the middle of the street to give me a hug a few days ago.

Nothing like this has ever happened to me before, and the timing was like it had been written into a highly-improbable movie script: Little girl runs up to sad old man and puts a big bewildered smile on his face.

Anyway, @KLi, the message I got out of it was the same as the message you posted: "Being nice to people is something they remember."
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Beautiful!!!
 
Duke said:
At 1:50 into that song are two words tucked into the backing vocals: "redefine happiness".
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I never caught those words in the song, but one way or another the same thought came to me sometime in my past. Not those exact words, but instead something like "Don't insist that happiness has to look any certain way. Just choose to be happy no matter what." I learned that I could choose to be unhappy during what should be fun, happy occasions just to prove a point when I didn't get my way. After experiencing that self inflicted misery and the annoyance it caused everyone around me, I decided that was never a good choice to make. Better to do just the opposite!
 
LTig said:
Yet just keep in mind that with every day you wake up alive your statistical live expectency has increased a bit. :)
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I like it. There is also: The past is not negotiable.
 
Duke said:
At 1:50 into that song are two words tucked into the backing vocals: "redefine happiness". I'm not going into the details, but those two words in that song may have saved my life forty-seven years ago when I was in despair over a combination of things. They definitely changed my trajectory.



Several days ago I was walking home from burying my best friend, so I was rather somber to say the least. As I was in front of our house a little girl, maybe 11 years old, with thick glasses, saw me from down the street and waved. I first checked to make sure she wasn't waving at someone else and then waved back. She then sprinted up to me and said, "I want to give you a hug!" I was taken by surprise and said, "okay, why?" She said, "'Cause you're the nicest person in the world!" (Obviously she doesn't know me very well, and even more obviously she has never disagreed with me about speaker radiation patterns on an internet discussion board.) Now totally bewildered I blurted out, "What did I do?" Then she reminded me:

Nobody in our neighborhood goes trick-or-treating on Halloween. This little girl and her brother and sister had been visiting their grandmother next door a few weeks before Halloween and had kicked a ball into our yard. When I tossed the ball back to them, they asked me if I was going to be giving out candy for Halloween. I told them that nobody goes trick-or-treating in this neighborhood. They said they would come to my house trick-or-treating this year. I didn't expect them to, as they didn't live here and would have to get someone to drive them to my house, but I bought a bag of candy just in case. My wife thought I was a bit nuts, probably not for the first time, but she humored me.

Sure enough they came by, their grandmother had picked them up from wherever they live, and I split the bag of candy between the three kids. I guess it made a huge impression on them, or at least on the one little girl, that I hadn't let them down. So that's why she came running up to me in the middle of the street to give me a hug a few days ago.

Nothing like this has ever happened to me before, and the timing was like it had been written into a highly-improbable movie script: Little girl runs up to sad old man and puts a big bewildered smile on his face.

Anyway, @KLi, the message I got out of it was the same as the message you posted: "Being nice to people is something they remember."
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Wow, this is really beautiful.
 
curiouspeter said:
Come on. Our daily life is frequently connected to death.

For instance, mort-gage = death pledge.

Of course, there is la petite mort.
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I never made that connection, but while a mortgage has a finish line, taxes follow us foreverrrrr
 
I sometimes imagine my death as a brief flash of white light that quickly shrinks to a small dot that slowly fades out.....

Like turning off a 'tube' TV ;)
 
EB1000 said:
How do you deal with this sad fact of life? How does it feel to be over 70, knowing you can go any day?
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It sucks but I don't worry about it. I realized when I passed 50, I for sure had less days in front of me than I had behind.
The thing that bothers me the most is when I see some beautiful young women, the type I use to date, etc.
Then realize I haven't a chance in hell of hooking up with her today. :(
Time to click on CollegeCuties.com LOL
 
I like to challenge myself to write sonnets. Few years ago wrote this:

The sun’s gentle, warm caress on my face…
or the next day’s raindrops’ orchestration…
Every day deserves a celebration.
Yet sometimes I trap myself in a place,

I just wake up to a numb sensation.
And I waste that day, such a fall from grace…
unforgivable – lost in my own maze,
then slowly dawns the realization…

Every heartbeat, ticking seconds of time…
If we don’t celebrate them are wasted.
Rejoice in the flow of life sublime,

never miss a thing because you waited.
Close your eyes, and make every minute rhyme,
because every breath we take is sacred.

(c)2020 pablolie
 
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Well, not really afraid of death. Faced it many times in stupid stunts and unfortunately war. Had a great and full life, bucket list empty except I want many grandchildren from my 3 kids (OK, perhaps Trinnov 32 on the side as well).

But this whole ageing thing is really difficult for me. After 40 years of working really hard, I will need to reinvent myself in the retirement that is not imminent but definitively coming up. That will entail loss of economic power and recognition/appreciation that I get at work. Both suck and the prospect of living on a budget and loosing the appreciation that was kind of back-bone of my personality for most of the life is what actually scares me.

And yes, share the same concern as @Sal1950, so we might be joining the same website :facepalm:.
 
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