You just have to play around (experiment). Graphic EQ is easier to play-around with than parametric EQ. You have be a little careful boosting because you can drive the amplifier or headphone into distortion. It's usually better to cut the other frequencies, or don't go too crazy with the boost. With digital EQ it's also possible to clip (distort) the digital data and some digital EQs have a "preamp" control that's normally used to attenuate the overall level than to amplify/boost so you're not digitally clipping.
Headphones reviewed here have a frequency response measurement and a recommended correction to the Harman curve. That could be a good place to start before any personal-preference adjustments.
As someone who learned to EQ over the last year or two, my biggest takeaway isn't the SQ improvement: rather, it's the education and ear-training that comes from learning to do it well, as someone not trained in electronics or audio engineering. I also liked a lot of music but had no musical training.
It's easy enough to launch into EQ with the Harman tuning as suggested here. But the process of going beyond that taught me how to listen, and led me into all sorts of research into music, musical instruments, recording, sound mixing and audio playback technology. It might have seemed a tech-y chore on day one, but then it became fun, and then it became obligatory. What a gas!
When I listen to new music now, I hear so much more than I did before. Don't give yourself permission to EQ; deny yourself permission NOT to do it.
(The SQ improvement is important, too, of course. I have now listened to a variety of IEM's, headphones and speakers. I have heard not one piece of equipment that couldn't be improved, either a little or a lot. For free. I agree that EQ is usually the most cost-effective way to improve your system, and may be more important than many expensive but only-marginally-effective hardware features.)