I don't try to EQ for my deficiencies, as it would be bad for anyone else listening (and it doesn't help me anyway). ...
At my age, my HF hearing is way down on what it was in my youth, but it still sounds 'normal' to me. The loss has been gradual, and I've completely adapted to what I can hear now. Boosting the HF just makes it sound bright, ...
I agree. EQing for hearing loss will by definition make it sound unlike natural sounds. Yet some people may have reasons to do that...
I noticed that even now, watching movies I am having a hard time with the dialogue. Sometimes I have a hard time making out what people are saying more so than before. Either way, I am trying to get into an audiologist appointment book. Hopefully it might share some light. ...
Some amount of hearing loss (attenuation of high frequencies) is normal with age. The difference between "normal", and "having a condition" is not whether there is loss (there always is), but the amount of loss. One of the common first signs is being harder to discern dialog in noisy environments. 8 kHz is roughly around where hearing loss begins to affect dialog. When watching movies, my wife has the same thing you do, always asking, "What did he say?", and wants to turn up the volume.
When EQing for dialog, try a smooth boost to the upper mids and treble. For example, a shelf with corner frequency around 2 kHz, Q=0.5, amplitude +3 dB. You can start there and tailor the frequency & amount of boost to taste.
When I've visited the audiologist, they showed me the curve, amplitude vs. frequency. With comparison to what is considered normal for various age ranges. Also, you can test yourself online for free, if you have a good set of headphones.
PS while at the audiologist, ask about musician's earplugs. They make molds of the insides of your ears up to the eardrum. Then they fit them with filters that snap on. Etymotic makes filters for 9, 15 and 25 dB. These musicians earplugs have some key advantages over normal earplugs:
1. They have flat(ish) frequency response, so they dial down the loudness without muffling it
2. They eliminate (or reduce) occlusion
3. They have adjustable attenuation (snap in different filters)
4. They fit all the way into your ears without sticking out much, so they are discreet
In noisy environments (movie theaters, restaurants, practicing music etc.) I hear better with the earplugs in, as they dial the volume down to a normal level.