If it is penetrating the neighbors space as remnants of what you are listening to, it is in my opinion too loud.
If that's the metrics you work with everybody in this house is too loud. Because if I would, just like him at this day, sit in my dead quiet empty room without any music, I'd hear all my neighbours noise too. There's always someone clacking with dishes, another slams the door, someone is dropping something, dog's barking, cat's are using their running wheel, family with a kid is, I don't know, playing bowling in their apartment perhaps?
So it's much more convenient to work with comparing it to the usual noise level of the house rather than saying "if I can hear it, it's too loud". I use music to protect myself a bit from all the noise around me, just like many people do. And I won't wear headphones 24/7. All of the noise I just described above, which sounds like a horrible place to live in, is gone when music is played at even just moderate levels.
I grant my neighbour freedom in return too. He invited over friends on a sunday, they drank beer, laughed and talked loudly, slammed the beer bottles onto the table many times and as well were loud on the balcony, until 1 am at night. So if I listen to louder music every then and when or watch a movie, I want to have that freedom as well.
We can either all live in silence, which isn't possible unless everyone in the house plays along, or we can all tolerate a bit from each other so everybody can have a bit more fun in their lives. That doesn't mean being absolutely relentless. If I was, I wouldn't have made this thread and I wouldn't care about whether or not the modes bother other people. In fact, this one neighbour who I called "hypersensitive" is the one I don't want to annoy with the bass.
So please don't make it look like I'm some sort of asshole. You don't live here, you don't know how loud or quiet my music played and how loud the house is in comparison. You don't know how loud my neighbour is, him who complained.
I asked him to be understanding about the noisy house and that I like the music to distract me from that, but in the same time that he can ring my bell and let me know if it ever bothers him too much. Until to date, he didn't have to.
When we live with others in a house yes, we have to be respectful and considerate, but we as well have to allow a bit of living. Personally, I find a little bit of music from the neighbour much less annoying that the constant loud slamming of doors and dropping things onto the floor. And there's really not a single day where this stuff doesn't happen multiple times.