If your are afraid of a shadow, then you have a problem. You have to live with your neighbours but they also need to live with you.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not walking on eggshells here. My consumer 2.1 system with sub can really hit hard and I listen to music louder or watch movies with a lot of SFX and big soundtracks all the time.
But the mode that the T7V created was something else. That was like a thunderstorm right in my room, as if I was dropping a barbell over and over again. Okay, slightly exaggerated, but certainly it was more punch 'in the air' than what even my subwoofer usually does. If my neighbours don't hear this, I'd be happy and use a 7" monitor, but if they can hear this, that would imo go beyond what I think any neighbour should have to accept.
So it's essential for me to know whether or not modes 'leave' the room, or if they're merely a local phenomenon, a leftover
after the reflections did their thing. I'd be happy if I could use the 7" here or another 3-way system maybe with more low-end to save myself the space of another sub.
I think you've answered your own question
Well, that's two different things. What I described means I'm aware that
a) the speakers do what they should, the way the engineers intended it
b) my room isn't adding enough reflections to bother me and impair my mixing
But if I measure my room, make a mistake, and the faulty EQ fixes the bass mode so that it's gone, but introduces other problems, then I just made a step to the side maybe without even knowing.
With the former approach I know that I'm only substracting problems, not possibly adding them.