• Regardless of the size of the woofer in the main speakers, you’re going to want to cross over to the subs, one octave above the -3dB point of the loudspeakers frequency response. Generally speaking, all loudspeakers produce the most distortion as they start to dip down into the first octave that they can reproduce. It never hurts to crossover to the subwoofers much higher than very low bass frequencies so long as you’re running the subs in stereo.
Another "it depends". Specifically, it depends on the crossover slope.
If you are using a relatively shallow crossover slope, then yes, one octave above the -3dB frequency is a good rule of thumb. But, if you are using a relatively shallow crossover slope, then you want to cross it over very low or place a subwoofer right next to each speaker.
As an example, I inherited a SVS subwoofer and decided to try it with my KEF LS60 speakers in my office, letting the KEF app control the subwoofer integration. I don't know what is the crossover slope, but it probably is something like 2nd or 3rd order. I tried 80Hz, and I could hear where the subwoofer was located. It degraded the imaging. I kept dropping the crossover frequency in 10Hz increments until I no longer was audibly aware of the subwoofer location. I ended up at 40Hz.
In contrast, in my family room I have small bookshelf speakers crossed over to a subwoofer that is even further from the speakers than in my office. In my family room I am crossed over at 100Hz using 8th order crossover slopes, and I can't hear where the subwoofer is located. The steep crossover slopes really help get the subwoofer response to roll off quickly, which helps to audibly mask its location.
Another issue is that some ported speakers are easier to integrate with a subwoofer when their ports are plugged, though it is not always the case. In my family room plugging the ports definitely helped smooth the transition frequency range around the crossover frequency. But, the speakers' bass response does not extend as low, which for me is not a problem given my 100Hz crossover frequency.