As mentioned, have had comparable experiences.
Not saying subwoofer integration may not take some work, but bass coming out of a subwoofer built into a tower has many of the same issues with room integration and the tower will cost you more due to higher shipping costs, storage costs and any premium the vendor tacks on.
Otoh, subwoofers have lower overhead, and more competition makes for better values. Since bass in recordings is also variable, many blame the equipment for something "off" as well. On my AVR, if I do not like the added contribution from the subwoofer, can readily change to stereo only (I rarely do). In either case, also agree that ARC can be a very helpful tool and should be a major consideration in any newer system.
My first subwoofer system had a serious passive crossover. It was not perfect but clearly demonstrated the bass advantage of subwoofers. At that point, for me, there was no serious listening without a subwoofer. I have several other very enjoyable systems without a subwoofer, but struggle to think of any other audio investment that returns more value than adding one (or more).