I actually prefer solutions without solder, so I usually go with crimping, screw terminals etc. . In an ideal world, it would only be copper surfaces, cold welded together. But since we don't live in an ideal world, I rely mostly on a selection of wire end sleeves / wire lugs and banana connectors. On the amp side I have wire lugs that fit into the screw connectors, on the speaker side I use banana plugs. Probably among the best banana plugs are the ones from WBT, but they are really damn expensive. They have a pin at the back that you screw in to adjust the pressure between the surfaces. I think I have seen copies of it, but don't remember where.
When soldering to gold plated connectors, some extra flux might come in handy unless you have some solder that has a high flux content. In this regard audio brand solders might actually be beneficial, from what I have seen they usually have more than 3% flux, mostly of the RMA type. Using a leaded / lower melting point alloy might reduce the risk of melting plastic parts of the connector assembly (if there are any, more of an issue with connectors that use insulation materials). I don't have any of the audio brand solders, but Sn62Pb36Ag2 is a low melting point, eutectic alloy. It's expensive compared to other leaded alloys and with ROHS in place kind of hard to find, but the silver content makes for very shiny joints. The WBT stuff might work well too, I haven't tried that but audio shops are one of the few places where you can still order leaded alloys without much hassle in Germany. Might be similar elsewhere.
Another word on soldering speaker wire:
Generally speaker wire is pretty thick, the copper will take away massive amounts of heat. So either you have a powerful iron or you just crank up the temperature. Usually what will happen is you will tin the leads more or less successfully, but solder will flow along the copper into the insulation. Not good. There should always be a gap of at least 5mm between the tinned wire and the insulation in my opinion, because otherwise the tinned-together conductors will likely experience bending stresses in different directions and break sooner or later (without anyone noticing it unless you actually check for that). So strip off a little more insulation and make sure there is a gap between the stiff, tinned wire and the beginning of the insulation.