It’s generically true to say that audiophiles with high standards specialize in making mountains out of molehills, and those with somewhat lower standards say “it’s not that important” (your words).
Let's alter a couple of words: It’s generically true to say that audiophiles with
academic standards specialize in making mountains out of molehills, and those with
practical standards say "it's not that important."
Which is borne out here every day. Some guy mentions a SINAD of 120dB, ten other guys say it's not that important above 100, or 80, or honestly, in the real world, pal, you can get away with 60. Etc, etc. Good advice, generally. Good practical advice.
As is, within reason, FR doesn't matter as much as you think it does. Chasing the impossible dream of flatness is like chasing a SINAD of 150dB. We don't need to, anyway. It's not that important. Within reason, plus or minus single-figure dBs, with a lump or bump here or there, works perfectly fine.
I say so not because I'm stubborn, but because I'm thinking of it musically. All of some and some of all reproduced music depends on line, and flow, and touch, and nuance, all of which are impossible unless the brain can somehow compensate for violent FR variation unrelated to musical intent. Possibly you think different. I'm happy to disagree. Over and out.